what's the proper way of breaking up with freind(s)

[Senestro13]

Have you ever had a situation with some ne you use to be close with and you just grow apart? how do you handle that? are words exchanged are do you just slowly but surely return phone calls less and less till you are off that person's speed dial.

how do you tell some one you no longer want to be friends? or you feel that you no longer share any common interest? should you lie to spare their feelings or tell the truh no matter how harsh and honest it maybe? :(

what would be some reasons that would make you question your friendship with someone?

Mine would be

common interests (we all change, but if we have nothing in common to talk about.. then what's the point)
respect i cann't respect someone who doesn't respect my thoughts, opinions and/or my ideals
goals (we all grow up some times, some of us grow up faster then others.. but if we're in our 30's and you still have the same mind set as if we're still in grade school. i might start consider you as dead weight)
if i'm the one always planning things for us to do and you always sit back and bash every idea i come up with and never offer a better alternative.. then you might be getting the walking papers
users: if i got your back 100% and you are never there for me?then what's the point? No one likes to fell USED.

[Clasione]

It's pretty amazing, I have had similar instances in my life where I can completely relate to every single point you are making....

What can you do? Some people grow older and wiser faster than others and you can't look back and question yourself....

Some people are ready to move on with there lives and other will always lag behind....

I've had some friends that I never thought I could possibly do without.

Friends I though I could never out-grow, but it just isn't there anymore....

Things change and people change...

[Senestro13]

tru tru.... but most times if your the freind left behind. you'd most likley scream out that the "dumper" changed for the worse or started growing self centered. many times i've been accoused of that.... well to be honest, i am shallow and self centered...LOL

but anyway. i see no problem if you are focused on a clear goal. if "they" are you true friedns and want to see you grow, they shouldn't feel threaten. most people are simply happy with living by.. some people want more. i like to think i encourage my friends to do more then there are use to and i'm level headed enough to be honest with them when i think they've over reached their means.

[Clasione]

tru tru.... but most times if your the freind left behind. you'd most likley scream out that the "dumper" changed for the worse or started growing self centered.

I used to feel that I was the one left behind...
But in the long run, through many nights and moments of thinking what went wrong and how, I have finally realized that it wasn't me that was left behind...

It was I that left in my own way.....

[Senestro13]

I used to feel that I was the one left behind...
But in the long run, through many nights and moments of thinking what went wrong and how, I have finally realized that it wasn't me that was left behind...

It was I that left in my own way.....

:clap: congradulations you are now my new Freind:clap: say you prayers now, it's gonna be a bumpy ride :eek: LOL:D

[Clasione]

I more addition to the arsenal.... :jiggy: :D

[Senestro13]

I more addition to the arsenal.... :jiggy: :D prepare to mind-meld :eek:


ok i'm bored again.. anyone else gonna post anything on this board?:(

[#1 achiever]

Hey Senestro,

It's normal for friends to grow apart. As you said, interests, paths, and lives change. All you can do is be grateful for the time you shared with someone, and move on. If you really choose not to be friends with this individual, then don't. It doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you someone who knows the company they choose to keep. So basically do as you have been doing, slowly seperate yourself from this person, and eventually, they will forget all about it, and so will you.

Life goes on.

[Senestro13]

Hey Senestro,

It's normal for friends to grow apart. As you said, interests, paths, and lives change. All you can do is be grateful for the time you shared with someone, and move on. If you really choose not to be friends with this individual, then don't. It doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you someone who knows the company they choose to keep. So basically do as you have been doing, slowly seperate yourself from this person, and eventually, they will forget all about it, and so will you.

Life goes on.

#1 you are right on the money. it's just an interesting topic that seems to be popping uup alot lately.

[hrtlessbabe]

I can relate to that, I don't even talk to any of my HS friends anymore. They tried to look for me and I made a mistake by getting in touch w/ them. All they wanna do is dates richer men, shopping etc...I have no interest in those stuff. I like to work hard ... travel and relax...nice and quiet w/ a margarita on the rock. But it really sux when I run into them.

[Clasione]

I have no interest in those stuff. I like to work hard ... travel and relax...nice and quiet w/ a margarita on the rock. But it really sux when I run into them.

I know how you feel......

It's like an unwanted trip back into time...... It was nice in a way, but you weren't ready for it right now, if ever....

[Senestro13]

it's all part of life. you have to go back to see where your going at some point. it's just hard or sad to leave people behind. you don't want to start thinking in the future not to invest in freindships , because over time you may or may not out grow each other. some freindships were meant to last and some weren't. it's just intersting seeing where each one falls into place. people i thought i'd never have anythign in common turned out to be life time friends i can call on for anythign and kno w they have my back. and the ones i thought we were close turned out to be let downs.

it's important to know who are your real friends and who are just associates. do you guys know the difference?

[jenvencop]

I completely agree with the growing apart between friends. My best friend Michele and I grew up 2gether and we vowed we would be friends 4 ever. But now we're both 28 and we haven't spoken in some time. She is married doing her thing and I'm here doing my thing. It kills you though, all the dreams her and I would talk about. Now we don't even know each other exists. If you were to go back in time and tell either one of us that we wouldn't be buying matching houses and our kids wouldn't even know each other we would think you were crazy. But reality is just that!

[badshow_99]

for me it was just the drying up of fone calls and then a coupla months later when i called one of my frnds, my contact number was off his cell!
and the good thing is tht i dint even felt anything bad at tht

but it happens, and the best thing is to cut down on the call time and frequent meetings

and if the other person doesnt wants to part he'll sense somthin and ask, and then u can make it clear!

[shopgirl10]

well it happens but nobody likes to talk about it. Sometimes you just realise you don't get together anymore. or no time you suggest is good for them. But if somebody is a leech or a time waster, get OUT. I had someone like this, called me ten times a day with her problems. i just told her one day,. if you want to talk to me again, we will not discuss this. it never ends and goes on and on. And i never heard from her again. What a blessing.