Ahh… the single scene. A love-hate predicament. Love the freedom and the right to pick and choose, although choosing is also a tricky process, like opening up a Crackerjack box; never know what you’re going to find! But some of us have been doing this long enough, and now want to go to the other side. So for those of us looking to embark on serious relationships with serious people… looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right… These tips should start you off in the right direction.
•First thing you might consider is examining your previous relationships, and considering what you liked, and didn’t like. Make a list of what you want and don’t want your potential partner to be. Think about the things you liked in any of your previous significant others, and what you feel you could do without. Perhaps you are looking for someone who is caring and sensitive, but you appreciate your independence, so your potential partner shouldn’t be too clingy. Maybe you want someone “outdoorsy”, or perhaps a “home body” will suite you just fine. Consider what you want and don’t want your relationship to be… and your partner to be for that matter.
•From this list you have created, put things in a category of importance, “1” being the most necessary, and “3” being the least necessary. In other words, maybe your potential partner doesn’t have to be an avid chess player (a “3”), but maybe they have to be an animal lover. Prioritize what you list, and it will make it easier for you to narrow in on what you’re looking for, and how to choose.
•Now that you have your list, and it is prioritized, you have a solid idea of what you’re looking for. Look this list over, make sure it is right, and try to have the list ingrained in your mind. This way, while you’re out with a potential someone, you can subconsciously compare them to your list. Now it may take a couple of dates to determine how they measure up to the list, so don’t be in a rush. Although it may take just one date to see an absolute no-no (disaster dates!)
Last but not least… be who you are! There is nothing worse than falsely representing yourself! Be yourself, relax, and enjoy your life. Whether your single or in a relationship, enjoy your life! If you would like more information on finding Mr. or Mrs. Right, feel free to contact me with any questions. Good luck…. Now get out there!!